How to Keep Your Wife Happy
Not long after the church bells and the initial honeymoon bliss, reality sets in. You are married. And if you lived together prior to marriage, many these days, you may quickly realize not much has changed other than your sparkly wedding bands.
1. Make time for conversation after work. I know the feeling, you get home from 8 hours of work, an hour commute, and all you want to do is plop down on the couch and zone out.
Whether your wife is a stay at home mom, or a 9 to 5 you, she wants to talk to you! I'm not saying you have to break down in detail your entire day, but at least tell her a few things. She is your partner for life and she wants to feel included.
My guess is you talked pretty thoroughly about something in your life with your co-worker today, so the least you can do is share a little with your other half.
2. Listen. Really, listen. On the same note as sharing, you need to listen equally. I'm not talking nodding your head while looking at the paper and a few uh-huhs. Truly listen to what your wife has to say. Although, the details of her day may not actually be all that interesting to you at that moment, listen for the love of your wife.
3. Compliment her. Some men have a more natural tendency to do this. If you are not one of them, I ask for you to step back and actually take a nice long look at your wife. What about her attracts you? It doesn't necessarily have to be physical.
It could be the amazing chicken she made the other night. Or, the way she rocks your new baby girl to sleep every night. Find things that your admire and TELL her! Even a quick slap on the butt in private can make your wife smile.
Let her know you are thinking about her and how great she really is.
4. Help out around the house. This is a big one. I'm not saying you have to take over all the duties and work from dusk to dawn, but at the least pick up after yourself. After dinner, bring your dish to the kitchen, rinse it off, and pop it in the dishwasher.
The dishwasher is full of clean dishes, you say? Unload it! Your favorite pair of pants has been dirty for a few days and you notice the laundry is piling up? Put a load in! If things around the house are not perfect, it is probably for a reason. Your wife may have a lot on her plate at the time, or maybe she is simply feeling unappreciated.
Take some time to look around you and ask your wife if she wants any help.
5. Put the toilet seat down. You may laugh, but this one is true. Even if your wife has never mentioned anything to you about it, and you always leave it up, and “she doesn't mind!” Wake up call, she does. Just put it down, it's not that hard.
6. Don't yell at her for no reason. I get it, everyone has a bad day. Also, it's proven that people tend to take things out on the ones they love the most.
But whatever you do, don't, without reason, yell at your wife. Women think very complexly and if you yell and we don't know why it could damage us for a long time.
If you have something upsetting you, outside of your relationship, talk to us, go to the gym, take a walk, or call a friend to vent.
7. Do something unexpected. Buy her a card and write a few sweet things in it. Deliver flowers to her work. Text her just to say you're thinking over her. Plan a surprise weekend getaway. Do anything unexpected every once in a while.
You don't have to do this once a week, or even once a month. But, it is important to do something to show your wife your think about her when she is not around.
Doing these things on totally non traditional times is the best, not just her birthday or Valentine's Day.
8. When you fight, fight fair. All couples fight. In fact, it is perfectly healthy–if the fighting is productive. Don't say hurtful things that you will regret.
I know, easier said than done. But remember, this is someone you married and love. Never, ever mentioned the D-word in the heat of the fight.
Take 20 minutes, or however long it takes to cool off, and make things right.
9. Don't be so serious. If you are most, you love a sense of humor. Sometimes, the initial attraction and laughter of a relationship can get drowned in bills, children, and work. Shake off the stressers of life and flirt with your wife you used to. Reminisce about funny stores, tell jokes, play a silly board game. Loosen up and remember when you first fell in love.
10. Give her a hug. Nothing much else to say about it. Give your wife a hug. Whether she is happy, sad, mad, or content a hug is always amazing gift from her husband. Show her, without sexual gestures involved, that you love her and want to be close.
11. Be punctual. Be home from work on time. And, if you aren't going to be on time, let her know right away.
12. Be a gentleman. Even if you never opened doors for her or pulled out her chair for her at dinner when you were dating, now is the time to start. She may think it's silly at first, but every women loves this.
If the old school style just isn't you, then at least show your gentleman side around her friends and family. Treat her, and the ones she loves, with mega respect.
Tell wonderful stories about your wife to her mother and make her friends jealous that she has such a respectful husband.
13. Take care of yourself. This doesn't mean if you have to be a gym rat or have perfectly shaved face at all times. Just take care of your appearance.
Brush your teeth in the morning and before bed. Take a shower. When you go out for a nice dinner wear something nice.
This may sound silly, but often times men (and women) get in ruts and think it is no longer necessary to look nice for their spouse.
14. Make her your number one priority. There is nothing wrong with going out with they guys. But, if you have plans with your wife, don't back out on her for your friends. If you're a workaholic, make sure it is obvious that you are still her number one.
15. Protect her. I know things have changed and women should be treated equally as men. But, there is still something about a husband standing up for her woman. Make her feel safe. Let her know that you are here for her if she ever has a conflict. If she is really nervous about something, be there for her and let her know it will all be okay.
16. Let her sleep in. Whether your wife is a stay at home mom or a corporate women, let her sleep. I personally, know it is very frustrating waking up to kids screaming and demanding breakfast.
But, just remember, this is very ly what your wife wakes up to every single morning. One Saturday the month, let her sleep, let her sleep as long as she wants. Then, when she wakes up and is feeling rested don't make her feel guilty for sleeping.
Give her a kiss and let her know you're glad you could help.
17. Don't be secretive. Don't keep anything for her. Don't go the room to take calls. Don't text people in secret. Don't close your browser when she enters the room. Don't hide that there is a new women in the office that you work closely with. Often times secrets are because of guilt. If you are guilty of nothing, don't hide anything.
18. Admit when you are wrong. It is human nature to want to be right. But, if you are wrong, please admit it. Admit it. Apologize for it. Not in a 10 year old way. In an adult and calm conversation. If you admit when you're wrong, she will be all the more willing to do the same when she is.
19. Don't forget special events. You don't have to remember the date of the first time you ate pasta together or when you adopted your second dog. But, remember the important dates.
Your anniversary, your children's birthdays, your wife's birthday, Valentine's Day, or anything that you have celebrated in the past.
With technology these days, and easy ways to remind yourself, there is no excuse for forgetting.
20. If you need help, get it. If you have come to a point in your marriage where it is obvious things are not going well, do something about it. Don't sit back and expect your wife to call a counselor to try to fix things. If you truly love your wife make the first steps to show that you are all in and want to make things better.
Marriage is a joyous and often time frustrating union. Taking these steps and most importantly putting everything you can into your marriage will result in happiness.
What things do you do for your wife that makes her happy?
What things do you wish your husband did for you?
7 Ways to Make Your Angry Wife Happy
If you’ve made your wife angry for some reason, you know how difficult it is to put a smile back on her face. While it’s true that each woman is different, a lot of wives being showered with kindness and appreciation.
You need to do more than just say you’re sorry. You have to let her know how much you think about her, how happy your wife makes you, and how much you value her presence.
If you’re getting the cold shoulder, here are some ways to turn it around:
1. Do something amazing and lovable
Search out a special gift or throw a surprise party. Keep in mind, a beautiful flower a day keeps the quarrel at bay. This is the common and most usual technique to lift your partner’s spirits.
2. Treat her to a holiday
If your pocket can take it, she will definitely enjoy a lavish cruise in gentle waters and blonde sunshine. Propose to take her out for shopping and be openly keen on the places your wife wants to explore.
If you’ve been spending too much time at work, a holiday would also benefit you.
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3. Write a romantic and sweet poem or love note for her
Romantic gestures don’t have to be expensive. If you can’t afford that luxury cruise, how about DIY-ing something your wife would love?
Handwritten romantic love letters never go style. Write down your most genuine and sincere feelings and they will be sure to reach her.
If she loves to watch movies, buy a ticket to a movie she’s been waiting to see. If she loves gourmet food, learn one recipe and try it out for a special dinner with just the two of you. Whether you succeed or not at whatever you plan, your wife will see your effort and be touched by it.
5. Be a good listener
Some women (and men) suffer from feelings of neglect. Oftentimes, all they need is to know that one person loves them wholeheartedly and listens to them. Be that person for her.
When she encounters any troubles, pay attention carefully to your wife and show your concern by uttering sounds of solace. Put down your mobile phone and instead give her your 100% attention.
6. Keep your sense of humor
When a person is angry, she might not be in the mood for jokes or humor. However, avoid clashing with her temper too as this will not yield any positive results. Instead, bide your time and know when to lighten the mood around the house.
Think of a household chore that your wife REALLY hates to do. Maybe she hates to do the laundry or do the cooking. Now start doing those for her for a couple of days.
Though presents and holidays are perfect but expensive treats, consider that there other heartfelt ways to turn around your wife’s state of mind. A shower of love and affection and a truly affectionate heart is needed to make her feel happy.
See Also: 10 Behaviors That are Hurting Your Wife
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10 Secrets For Keeping Her Happy
I am the best husband in the world.
If my wife were to read this, she'd fall to the floor, convulsed in laughter, and then gasp something about my “dazzling lack of self-knowledge.” But no matter. I wear her ignorance of my excellence as a badge of honor.
Now, I have no formal credentials, and the only marriage counseling I ever got, from the rabbi the day before my wedding, amounted to, “A Catholic and a Jew? Don't bother.
Cancel the wedding and save on the divorce.
” My only qualification? I've been a husband for a long time—nearly four decades—and fortunately for you, I've made many, many mistakes from which you are about to learn.
Will you ever be as great a husband as I am? Not ly. By now, I'm the gold standard. But you can do better, my brother (And that's true for you unmarried guys, too: If you're with her, you can learn to be with her better). I've condensed my wisdom into some guiding thoughts and tricks of the togetherness trade.
Think of them as batting tips from Kris Bryant. Stash them in a part of your brain that guides your behavior, and two good things will happen: She'll get the partner she deserves, and you'll get the satisfaction and, oh yeah, the sex of which you dream.
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When you and Lucy argue, don't use either of these two words. First of all, they're not technically accurate. But, more important, they're gas-on-the-fire words. Instead of these indicting adverbs, use ameliorative words and phrases, “sometimes or I feel” or “I wish.
” Darn right they're soft, but guess what? The best husbands actually are a skosh more sensitive to their wives' feelings than your average brute of a mate is. By the way, the words never and always are great when you're complimenting her, as in, “You never fail to amaze me” or “I always enjoy reaching under your blouse.
” And if your relationship is just getting started, don't miss the 10 sexiest things you can say to her on date one.
You come though the door tired, maybe distracted about something at work. You riffle though the mail, ask her a routine how-was-your-day question, and give her a pro forma kiss. But let's face it, you don't really focus on her, do you? She gets only a sliver of your attention. Not good enough.
Don't panic. I'm not about to suggest in-the-moment mindfulness. Men can't be “in” every moment. The secret is to “husband” your limited supply of attention, save it for deployment at pivotal times. Think John McEnroe, who would occasionally tank a forsaken fourth set, saving his strength for the pivotal fifth.
Your key moments are the reunions. Take a few seconds and resolve to be fully tuned-in during each come-together moment. You can do it. Trust me, if I can, you can.
Here's the plain truth: For all the habituation of marriage, all the erosions that come with familiarity, a link between a man and a woman is also instantly renewable in a momentary locked-on gaze. For just a beat, maybe two, claim her with your eyeballs.
Look at her in a way that says, “I'm glad to be home, back in our powerful secret.” This kind of subtle but daily maintenance keeps the engine thrumming. And for more great relationship tips, here are Fifteen Ways to Impress Any Woman.
Among the most affirming things one person can do for another is to laugh at the other's attempts at humor. Lots of husbands, over time, forget this salute. What's that you say? Your wife isn't funny? So what? Neither is your dolt of a boss, but you laugh at his lame attempts.
Why? Because you're trying to prove you respect him. Bingo! One of the biggest dangers mature marriages face is that Homer and Marge stop trying to demonstrate their respect for each other. Laughter is tonic for a woman's woes. Keep it on display.
And remember: healthy communication is a bedrock of the best relationships.
Describing his important role during World War II, Winston Churchill once remarked that though he was no lion, it had fallen to him to make the lion's roar. Every now and then, husbands have to get fierce, defiant on behalf of their team.
It won't happen often, but when you are in a confrontational situation, where reason and soft words have failed—a dispute with a teacher, a vendor, a bill collector, your neighbor, your mother—be prepared to bark in unambiguous defense of your family. Don't shrink from this obligation.
Your wife's regard for you will diminish if you do.
Yes, this contradicts the previous carnivorous idea, but a husband is versatile: He can hammer the tee ball and feather the wedge. Softness and kindness and tenderness and all those traits that ain't much use in the marketplace are pure gold when it comes to being a husband.
A good husband relies on his wife, values her counsel, trusts her to love him even though he's not in command. We're most human when we're wounded or lost. Fred Rogers once said that the best gift you can give somebody is to gracefully receive his or her help. That enriches everybody, giver and getter a.
Now and then, wrap your arms around your wife and whisper that you're a mite confused. Let her help you find your way. If you're stressed, don't be afraid to open up.
This is the fundamental impenetrable puzzle of love. I have no idea what to do about this. But great husbands have this reality in mind at all times. However, it might help to check out The 13 Sexiest Things You Can Say to a Woman.
Apparently, we touch our wives too infrequently—except, of course, when we are taxiing for takeoff. It pains me to cede any ground, but we're guilty as charged.
I know one husband who when he's feeling conjugal actually touches his wife as though he cherishes her character. But in fact, he's hoping to cherish her caboose in a kitchen quickie.
She sees through me every time. Did I say me? I meant him.
Nonsexual touch is a potent, underused endorsement of another soul. As you're heading out the door, give her upper arm a quick, affectionate double squeeze. As you're walking into a party or to your table, put a guiding hand, lightly but surely, on her lower back.
Some nothing-special Tuesday night while she's standing at the sink doing the dishes, come up behind her and give her a kiss on the back of her head. It should be more than a peck-make it last 1.4 seconds.
Throw in a little grunt of gratitude; its message is only this: “I'm a lucky man.” Don't linger behind her. No arms. No hint of pelvic urge. She'll get cranky if she suspects you're cruising for dessert while she's scraping chicken gunk off a baking dish.
Just drop the husband kiss on her noggin and get there. She'll feel valued.
The perfect husband understands that women often get confused by stuff that doesn't matter, as in the unwashed coffee cup that's been sitting in the sink for days.
Few wives understand that it isn't that we see the coffee cup and elect not to rinse it, but rather that the neural link between our eyeballs and brains actually keeps us from seeing the cup. The gender biology of why we don't see the cup comes down to this: We have a lot of more important things on our minds.
Will the Bills cover? Any chance of sex today? I think my biceps really are getting bigger. Our minds are cauldrons of profound thoughts. Any wonder we occasionally overlook some stray dishware?
Charge: We don't help enough around the house. We're guilty. But here's the fix: Do more. Not a lot more—just a little more. One of the best things about women is that they really appreciate the smallest sign that you're trying. They're effort oriented. Try walking into a room with a woman's mind.
Imagine that your brain has space in it for trivialities unwashed cups. Ask yourself, If I were a psycho neat freak, what would bother me in here? The coffee cup—which sometimes takes the form of the kids' sneakers under the table or the metro section crumpled on the couch—will suddenly reveal itself to you.
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People rarely change unless they feel accepted as they are. Once folks feel they're not required to change, growth happens.
You know the athletic wisdom that warns against playing not to lose, that argues you have to be loose to let your skills flow and maximize your game? Same goes for marriage.
Oh, sure, you can have a perfectly fine little partnership by taking the cautious route. He & She Inc. may even hum along nicely if you companionably sidestep the briar patches. But that's no way to be a great husband.
She's entitled to more, the full monty, the whole experience of being affiliated with, no, make that loved by, a man.
People often settle for accommodating coupledom because they're afraid some explosive issues will blow up the marriage. They fear ending their days alone, living under the bridge behind the high school. Set yourself free to play bravely by taking the big risk, divorce, off the table.
Decide that you meant what you said at the wedding, that this woman, come what may, is your partner for life. Older couples often report that once they've gone past the point where they might leave each other, their partnership gets an invigorating second wind. No longer afraid of being alone, they talk things through.
In pursuit of something richer than mere amity, they explore regrets, grievances. Sure, it can be difficult, but it's full and human and adrenal and-hallelujah!-not dull. And it can lead to a more spacious marriage, a connection that is full hearted and well tempered instead of taped together.
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