- Words of Affirmation Explained – The 5 Love Languages®
- Words of Affirmation Explained
- Examples of Words of Affirmation
- Words of Affirmation: Date Night Challenge
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- 1. Create a Plan
- 2. Engage in Team Building Activities
- 3. Invest in Date Night
- 4. Don’t Forget to Laugh
- 5. Get Outdoors or Get Moving
- Bonus – Take Some Time For Yourself
- Let Us Take Care of Your Next Date Night
- The Best Way to Speak to a Partner Whose Love Language Is Words of Affirmation
- 01. Humility
- Examples of words of humility:
- 02. Gratitude & Appreciation
- Examples of words of appreciation:
- 03. Encouragement
- Examples of words of encouragement:
- 04. Empathy
- Examples of words of empathy:
- 05. Respect & Admiration
- Examples of words of respect:
- Tips for Using Words of Affirmation in the Workplace
- Words of Affirmation
Words of Affirmation Explained – The 5 Love Languages®
If your primary love language is Words of Affirmation, then your partner’s appreciation and love are best affirmed to you through words (makes sense, right?).
You feel love when your partner tells you how attractive you look or when they say how proud of you they are after you accomplish something.
On the flip-side, for people with this as their primary language, insults or negative comments may cut a little deeper.
In this post, we’ll explain the Words of Affirmation love language, take a look at some examples, and give you a couple of date night games or activities to help you strengthen this language!
If you haven’t yet discovered your love language, we’d to invite you to take this free quiz.
Words of Affirmation Explained
If your partner’s primary love language is Words of Affirmation, it’s important that you regularly tell them how much you care.
The whole “they should know how much I love them so I shouldn’t have to say it” approach won’t fly. They need to hear it from you on a consistent basis.
One of the most important aspects of Words of Affirmation, however, is being genuine with those words. People whose primary language is Words of Affirmation care most about the intentions and emotions behind those words. If you are saying things just to say them, your partner will be keen to that. So, don’t fake it!
You don’t need to be Romeo, professing your love from the street below. Be you. Be real. And if you’re not the best at expressing those emotions through words, now may be the best time to practice, especially if your partner has Words of Affirmation as their primary love language.
Examples of Words of Affirmation
- “I just want to let you know how proud of you I am.”
- “You work really hard for us, and even when things may feel tough, I just want you to know how appreciative I am.”
- “I feel so lucky to have you.”
- “I am here if you need me and I want to help support you in any way I can.”
- “You’re doing such a great job. I’m really proud of you.”
- “Wow! You look so good! I really love the new outfit. It looks great on you!”
Words of Affirmation: Date Night Challenge
Affirmation Popsicle Sticks
Taking ten popsicle sticks each, write the beginning words for different affirmation statements along the side. Here are some examples:
I feel LOVED when you…
I APPRECIATE when you…
I am PROUD of you when you…
The best way to create these beginnings is to start with “I feel [emotion] when you…” Don’t write the answers, just the beginnings. We’ve used a few popular ones as examples above, but don’t be afraid to get a little goofy with your choices (“I feel bubbly when you…” or “I think it’s sexy when you…”) Once you have them written out, place all of them into a cup.
Choose an evening to sit together outside or on the porch. Head to the store and pick up a box of your favorite types of popsicles or ice cream bars (or just wave down the ice cream man and get a couple of Spongebob pops. You know, the ones with gumball eyes that are as hard as a rock).
As you enjoy your frozen treats, take turns pulling the popsicle sticks the cup. Read the beginning and then finish the sentence on your own. Start to talk about all those things you love about each other, and create some quality time together!
Affirmations, Fro-Yo Style
No this isn’t an action movie about a martial artist thatuses frozen treats as weapons, it’s better! First, find a local frozen yogurtshop (or an ice cream shop that has a lot of toppings) and choose a night to goout.
Before you leave, have you each come up with 4 things you appreciate about your partner, but don’t tell them what they are.
When you get to the fro-yo shop, it will be your challengeto create a cup for your partner using three toppings. Here’s the kicker, theflavor of ice cream and each topping must coordinate with the list ofappreciations you created.
For example, if you appreciate that your partner cleans thehouse, you may choose lemon flavored yogurt because they love citrus scentedcleaning supplies.
Or if you appreciate that they killed that bug in thebathroom that one time, you may put gummy worms as a topping.
The flavor metaphors don’t have to be perfect, they are just meant to see what funny combinations you can create something things you appreciate about your partner. Have fun with it!
This simple activity can help you practice giving each other different words of affirmation, in a super sweet way!
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At this point in the COVID-19 pandemic, it is clear that many people are going to be locked inside their homes, and under a myriad of different stressors, for who knows how long.
And let’s be honest. It can be a difficult task to be locked inside with your entire family 24/7 and not begin to turn on each other. That’s just human nature. During highly stressful times, our patience can grow thin, and our decision-making can be affected, especially in a time of so many unknowns.
But don’t fear! That crazy way you’re feeling is a normal psychological and physiological response to a situation such as this. That being said, learning how to healthily cope with stress is essential. And just as important is how you handle this adversity as a couple.
This is the time to support one another as a team, and that may look exercising those patience muscles A LOT and building up some healthy boundaries. So to help, here are 5 easy ways you and your partner can manage stress in a healthy and productive way (plus one bonus way).
1. Create a Plan
One way to help manage stress is to be proactive and communicate. Sometimes the “fear of the unknown” can create an unforeseen amount of stress and anxiety that causes even the strongest of knees to buckle.
Creating a short term plan together and loosely mapping out a future strategy can help create some clarity and relieve some of those anxious thoughts.
This may even look a daily routine and creating healthy habits instead of a short term plan, and that is perfectly fine.
Establishing some sort of schedule for the home will help you, your partner, and your family pull through that initial brain fog, creative funk, and any other mental hurdle that this new “normal” may bring about.
So to recap: make a to-do list, create a daily ritual, build a weekly schedule, dream big dreams, plan a regularly scheduled date night, and create a future strategy together. Now is the time to let that positivity (and that inner lover of spreadsheets) carry you through this season of newness.
2. Engage in Team Building Activities
While under stress, it can be easy to point fingers and turn against each other, but remember you are a TEAM, and you both will get through this together.
Now is the perfect time to strengthen your teamwork skills, whether that means diving into a new co-op board game or downloading some digital team-building exercises.
Think back to when you both first started dating. Were there any games or activities indoors that you both greatly enjoyed? Try to incorporate some fun and engaging “game hours” to become better “teammates” in these times of need. Sometimes all you need is a little fun and games to remember that this is all short term and that you two are still the same people you both fell in love with in.
3. Invest in Date Night
Sometimes when we get anxious, we forget to invest in our relationships, primarily our once cherished and regular date nights. Actively committing to date night will offer some much needed time to reconnect and strengthen your relationship.
Date night may not look what it did a few months ago, but there are still creative and romantic ideas that you can pull off with even the tightest of budgets. The list is endless; host a candle-lit dinner for your partner, sign up for a date night box subscription, have a dance party, or take a virtual trip to a famous museum, theme park, or zoo!
4. Don’t Forget to Laugh
Laughter can have a substantial impact on our moods and is very important to building a bond with your partner. Yes, under a lot of stress, it can be hard to find those laughing moments, but taking some time to find your joy can go a long way in helping to alleviate stress.
This may look a “trip to the movies,” setting up the living room a movie theater, popping all the popcorn, grabbing your favorite candies, and turning on both your favorite comedies back-to-back.
Or maybe get goofy, put on some karaoke, reminisce on both your favorite dating memories, practice your favorite dad jokes on each other, and try not to laugh. The first person to laugh gets tickled!
Whatever it is, try and find some joy together. Even in times of high stress, taking a few moments to laugh can be a great way to reconnect with each other.
5. Get Outdoors or Get Moving
Getting outside and being active together is a great way to manage stress. If you science, then here’s a little science lesson. There are four primary chemicals in the brain that influence our happiness: dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins. Here are some easy ways to release all these happy, feel-good chemicals.
The sun’s UV rays can help your body create serotonin, which makes us feel happy, maybe even sit on your back porch, or simply open a window, and really listen to the birds or watch the clouds floating by.
To boost oxytocin, you can set up a backyard picnic, but don’t forget to snuggle! Physical touch naturally increases this chemical, and what better way to love on your partner than to help them relax by rubbing out those tense shoulders or even just giving in to a simple cuddle session!
Lastly, exercising can boost endorphins and help your body release dopamine, improving both of your moods and making you both feel amazing. Invite your partner to run a mile with you, or do a pushup, sit up, or squat challenge! Heck, even a light stroll around the neighborhood can do wonders!
Bonus – Take Some Time For Yourself
One final tip: take some time for you! Although it may seem counterintuitive, taking some time to enjoy the things that make you happy can have a very positive impact on your relationship. That “self-care” can help you relax and reset, helping you become a better partner and a better teammate, especially in tough times.
We know there is a LOT of information out there on how to be productive, how to spend your time, so you don’t go crazy stuck inside. But just remember: have grace for your mind, body, spirit, and partner in this season.
Sadly there is no rule book for “How To Human During a Pandemic,” so take it day by day and take DEEP breaths.
And try your best to be there for each other. When stressed, we can seclude ourselves and turn away from our partners. These are truly the times we need each other the most. And hey, look at the bright side; maybe you will even build some new healthy habits during this season that will help brighten up your life and improve your relationship in the long run.
Also – don’t forget to stay up to date and connected with the CDC’s website and stay safe out there.
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The Best Way to Speak to a Partner Whose Love Language Is Words of Affirmation
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Several years ago when my husband was just my fiancé, we took a marriage prep class. Newly engaged, we needed all the help we could get to prepare us for a lifetime of good and bad.
Sure, we had already decided to commit to each other for the rest of our lives, but we knew that there were things we could still learn about how to navigate our relationship.
So when our marriage prep teacher Pete McFadden assigned The Five Love Languages for coursework, we jumped on it.
If you have not read Gary Chapman’s book, you’re missing out. Chapman’s bestselling book has sold more than ten million copies worldwide. It’s no wonder why—these two hundred pages have transformed countless relationships, including my own.
In his book, Chapman explains that we tend to give and receive love in five main ways: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
My then-fiancé and I devoured our copies in a day, discussing our love languages afterward over takeout in my tiny living room. He couldn’t decide between physical touch and quality time (it turned out to be both).
Mine was a clear winner: words of affirmation.
What Chapman’s book taught us—and what it teaches most people, I suspect—is that love isn’t always communicated in a way that the recipient responds best to. The reason for this is that couples rarely share the same love language.
My husband, for example, tries to show me he loves me with bear hugs and by dancing with me in the kitchen. I’m sad to admit that cuddling is just not my thing. At the same time, I’ve tried to show my husband how much I love him through countless acts of service.
I cook every single meal and ensure the house is spotless before he’s home. But because his primary love language is not acts of service, these efforts are often lost on him. Yes, he appreciates my gestures.
But whether the dishes are clean or the floors are shining do not reflect how loved he feels. He feels most cherished with a simple face rub just before bed.
For me, I feel safest when I hear how he thinks and feels about me. The words “I love you” warm my heart. But hearing why he loves me? That sends me straight to heaven. Conversely, rudeness, insults, and even a brusque tone deeply injure those whose love language is words of affirmation.
Four years, three big moves, and two kids later, my husband has gotten pretty good at filling my love bucket with words of affirmation. The journey hasn’t been without its challenges for either of us.
He used to think that a text message a day from him would be enough (and I used to think he should be happy with a hug as he walks through the front door!).
But through trial and error, we’ve mastered each other’s love language.
As Chapman explains in his book, everyone appreciates receiving all of the love languages. Even if your partner’s primary love language isn’t words of affirmation, you can benefit from these skills.
It’s not just about letters, text messages, phone calls, or emails here and there. It’s not about filling our days with deep conversations either. It’s as much the content of what you say as how you say it.
For words of affirmation to have any impact, it’s necessary to put time, thought, and yes, love, into them.
Here are a few powerful themes that run through my husband’s words to me. If you are looking for more meaningful ways to express your feelings to the one you love, use these to help. And for once, your words might actually speak louder than your actions.
Every night, we go through a ritual that we to call “Three Things.” We tell each other (1) what we regret doing (or not doing) that day (2) what we’re thankful for and (3) how we know the other person is “the one.
” My husband and I both have huge egos, so it’s nice for us to have a safe space at the end of the day to acknowledge any mistakes we’ve made toward each other. We lay down our imperfections in front of the other person. And we receive forgiveness, understanding, and a chance to try again the next day.
This is also a good opportunity to air out any stewing annoyances or hurt feelings so that they don’t blow up in our faces in the long run.
If you’re having a hard time saying sorry, a note is a great way to do so. And there’s nothing a humble heart to break down a wall between two people.
Examples of words of humility:
- I regret/I’m sorry for . . .
- Next time, I’ll try to . . .
- I could’ve done ___ better today . . .
- You must have been (upset, confused, etc.) when I . . .
02. Gratitude & Appreciation
Nothing fills me up more than hearing my husband notice all the little things I do for him. Whether he sends me a quick thank you text for the delicious lunch I made, or he lists all the actions he appreciates during “Three Things,” his thankfulness shows me that he doesn’t take me for granted. Simple heartfelt gratitude gives extra meaning and purpose to our daily actions.
Be specific. It’s a wonderful gift to show the other person how much you care about his or her unique role in your life. In addition to your significant other, this also applies to your parents, friends, and colleagues.
Examples of words of appreciation:
- I appreciate that you . . .
- I couldn’t ___ today if it weren’t for you . . .
- I am thankful that you . . .
- I’m glad to have you as my (mom, sister, friend, etc.) because . . .
Apart from being the lifestyle editor for Verily, I’m also a wife and mother. Needless to say, there are a lot of areas in my life where I have opportunities to fall short. Even on days when I feel most successful, I question whether I could have done this or that better. My husband puts my self-doubts at ease when he tells me how much he believes in me and my abilities.
He knows that the middle of the day is the craziest time for me. After all, I’ve been with the kids all morning, trying to balance work, errands, and my sanity. So he usually gives me a quick call to ask how I’m doing and to offer a few words of motivation. A simple “You’re a great mom.
You’re so patient, and the kids love you so much!” is enough to convince me that I have everything I need to conquer another dirty diaper and food strewn all over the floor.
Who knew that taking a minute to give someone a little encouragement could change a person’s entire attitude for the rest of the day?
Examples of words of encouragement:
- I believe in you because . . .
- It impressed me when you . . .
- The good news is . . .
- When you need something to lift your spirits, just remember that . . .
My husband struggles with empathy. Many of us do unless we’ve been in another person’s shoes. Words of affirmation are a way for me to know that I am understood.
It’s comforting for me to have someone to experience my struggles with. When my husband tells me that he recognizes my sacrifices and sufferings, I feel closer to him.
I feel someone is helping me carry the weight on my shoulders.
A great way to empathize with someone’s emotions, even if you don’t quite understand them, is to reflect on what they may be feeling or thinking. Paraphrase what you can tell they might be going through.
Examples of words of empathy:
- It must be really tough that you . . .
- I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you to . . .
- That sounds . . . Is that right?
- I could see how you would feel that way because . . .
05. Respect & Admiration
Whenever my husband and I ask couples for their secrets to a long and happy marriage, respect is among the top three answers. We may respect and admire the people we love, but how often do we express it with words? When my husband builds me up with concrete reasons of why he respects me, I can’t help but feel loved.
In this way, it encourages me to stay true to myself, to grow, and to continue to follow my dreams and goals as an individual. It moves me to recognize the strengths I have that I may take for granted, especially in the throes of daily life.
It also reminds me of the complementary aspects of our personalities, as we often admire most in others what we tend to lack in ourselves.
Every day, my husband writes me a letter. Sometimes it’s on a sticky note, and sometimes it’s on two large pieces of paper. He hides it in my laptop or leaves it on the bathroom mirror.
In doing so, he never fails to make me feel honored, whether it’s noting how creative I am with the kids or admiring my ability to work late into the night. It encourages me to keep being the best version of myself that I can be.
And in turn, it helps me build him and our family up as well.
Show your loved one that you respect him or her by speaking politely and giving compliments. Be specific and sincere. When you do disagree on something, refrain from making judgmental statements.
Reach out by asking questions or offering to talk about it more instead. In the end, it’s OK to have differences.
As an act of love, words of affirmation should be focused on the other person, not on yourself.
Examples of words of respect:
- Great job . . .
- I’m so thankful to have you in my life because . . .
- I wish I could ___ the way you do.
- It makes me happy when you . . .
- I’m proud of you for . . .
By now, you might be thinking, “Wow, you’re super needy.
” This is true. I need words of affirmation. I crave them. You may crave something else. If you aren’t sure what your or your loved one’s love language is, take the quiz here to find out.
After reading the book, my husband and I knew what each other’s love language was—but we couldn’t apply them to our relationship overnight. It takes thoughtful conversations, continued practice, and loving feedback to learn how to “speak” one another’s language.
Even so, there’s always room for improvement. It’s a good thing we have the rest of our lives together to work on it.
Tips for Using Words of Affirmation in the Workplace
Actions speak louder than words—unless of course, your partner's love language is “words of affirmation.” In this case, words are everything.
Whether they are written or spoken, a person whose primary love language is words of affirmation will place a lot of importance on what you have to say to them. Your words will speak volumes to them, even when you want them to just let things slide.
In fact, it is not uncommon for simple phrases “I'm thankful for…” and “I love how you…” will go a long way in communicating how much they are appreciated.
Your partner will especially appreciate compliments, heartfelt thank you's, handwritten notes, and hearing what they mean to others. The goal is to let partners know how much they mean to you, how they are different from others, and how much you care.
When it comes to Gary Chapman's five love languages, words of affirmation is the most common love language, edging out quality time and acts of service. It also is the only love language that revolves around verbal expression.
To people with this as their primary love language, they feel fulfilled when other shows their appreciation for them. What's more, these compliments and words of encouragement do not have to be said directly to the person.
A simple note or hand-written letter is appreciated just as much as a personal phone call.
Another interesting fact about people with words of affirmation as their primary love language, is that they tend to be the people who notice and care about the details of other people's lives.
For instance, they may be the first to notice their partner's new haircut. They also remember to ask the neighbor how their sick dog is doing.
They may even remember to ask the cashier at the local supermarket if she is feeling any better.
Those whose primary love language is words of affirmation are often sensitive and aware of their surroundings. They are the encouragers who know just what to say to make others feel better. And, they are hoping you can do the same for them.
A sweet note laying in the middle of the kitchen counter; a post-it placed in the middle of the mirror; or a favorite poem verse tucked into a suitcase—these examples are just a few of the many different options that speak to a person with words of affirmation as their primary love language. If your partner's primary love language is words of affirmation, you will need to find ways to communicate how much they mean to you. Here are some tips on how to speak this love language to your partner.
People who have words of affirmation as their primary love language have a nose for B.S. So be sure you are authentic when talking with them. You want to be sure what you're saying to them is coming from the heart, because if you are making stuff up, they will be able to tell.
When it comes to words of affirmation, it is crucial that partners realize that you recognize how they are feeling, especially if they are feeling down. Think about what it would be to walk in their shoes and then demonstrate that you know how they are feeling.
Usually, people who feel fulfilled by positive words and comments will thrive when people recognize and appreciate what they do.
Whether it is how they do the laundry, the meal they cooked for dinner, or the fact that they spent three hours proofing your report, the key is to tell them in no uncertain terms how much you appreciate them.
And if you are specific about what you really d, this will warm their heart and fill their tank. So, don't hold back.
People whose primary love language is words of affirmation never get tired of hearing “I love you,” from the people they care about. While many people often feel the phrase is overused, a words of affirmation person will never get tired of hearing you say it, especially when you find new and creative ways to communicate your love.
While email is a great way to communicate when you're in a hurry, there is something still special about receiving a love letter in the mail. So, get out a pencil and paper and start writing.
Your partner will be so surprised to receive the letter from you. And depending on what you write on the inside could be the beginning of something special.
If a letter seems overwhelming, buy them a cute card and write a nice note inside.
Sometimes the best, and most efficient way, to communicate how much you love your partner is to use a post-it note and leave them a little message about how much they mean to you. If you want to get really creative, you could post a number of post-it notes in the shape of a heart or another figure on the bathroom mirror or the window of their car.
Make sure you compliment your words of affirmation partner in front of other people. Tell them what makes you proud and what you really appreciate.
Don't go overboard and embarrass your partner, but telling others how awesome you think your partner is will touch their heart in so many ways. So, don't be stingy with the compliments.
This is a great way to fill your partner's love tank.
This is especially important when your partner is feeling down or discouraged. Giving them a pep talk and pointing out what you really about them or what they do well speaks volumes to them. They need to know that you see value in who they are.
When your partner is going through a tough time, it can be helpful for you to dial up the nice words. Be extra kind and loving while reminding your partner why they are important and what they mean to you. At all times, it is helpful to offer words of encouragement. These steps show them that you are there for them even in the rough patches of their life.
Even if you are not a words of affirmation person, it is a good idea to make words of affirmation a daily habit. Perhaps you can begin each conversation with the pet name you have your partner. For example, you could say “Good morning beautiful” or “How are you sweet pea.” These terms of endearment may sound corny, but for a words of affirmation person, they will be special.
If you find sharing words of affirmation difficult or if you feel you do not have a large enough vocabulary, listen for affirming words and keep lists of them.
This exercise will help you build a bank of kind words you can send to your partner.
This exercise is especially useful for people that feel they do not have a large enough vocabulary to come with something new and creative each time.
Because people with this love language find words to be extremely powerful, they also are highly sensitive to negative comments and criticisms. In fact, one harsh word can send people in the words of affirmation camp reeling.
For this reason, people whose primary love language is words of affirmation are often extremely wounded and hurt by gaslighting, narcissistic people, and emotional abuse. Negative words, accusations, and criticisms are daggers to their heart. Here are some other things to avoid doing if your partner's primary love language is words of affirmation:
- Don't assume there is a perfect quote for every one of life's situations.
- Don't try to take shortcuts in expressing love to them; they can tell when you're faking it.
- Don't be mean or hurtful with your words; they take them to heart.
- Don't make fun of them or tease them too intensely; they are sensitive.
- Don't be overly critical or condescending; they interpret this as being dumb or stupid.
- Don't withhold kind words as a punishment.
- Don't try to manipulate them with words or hit below the belt.
Being loved and appreciated in a way that you understand is important in any relationship. But, it is especially true for people with the love language words of affirmation.
They need to know that you love them, appreciate them, and will be there for them no matter what. When you find creative ways to share how you feel, you will be speaking directly to their heart.
What better way to communicate that love and appreciation than through words of affirmation?
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Words of Affirmation
By the time a child is 9 years old, he or she is better able to identify and express his or her feelings about love than when he or she was younger. Parents still have to keep in mind that children this age have a limited attention for and limited interest in such things as helping you determine their love language. The following online “game” should help you in your research.
Tell your child you would help solving “The Love Language Mystery Game.” Explain that you need him or her to look at a list of “clues” and that these clues are comments that parents sometimes make to their children. Your child will see a set of 20 clue boxes, each with two comments.
He or she must pick one of the two comments in each clue box which comment they better. Explain that at the end of all the clues, you and your child will see their results and solve the mystery.
If your child asks what the “mystery” is or what it is about, you can simply explain that it's a game in which parents are trying to learn what makes kids happy or what they to hear their parents say.
To give this a game- effect, you should secretly write on a piece of paper what you think your child's love language is (words, touch, time, service, gifts).
Do not let your child see your guess but tell him or her that you have written down your guess and will find out at the end of the game if you guessed right.
After your child has received their results at the end of the “game,” reveal your guess and tell your child if you guessed correctly.
This activity will have been little more than a game to your child to see if he or she got the same answer to the “mystery” that you got. He or she will have little clue that you're using this information to further confirm or clarify your guess about his or her love language.
Because children expect games to end in a “reward,” tell your child at the end of the “mystery solving” that, whether or not you guys ended up with the same answer, you'll celebrate by doing something fun together (i.e.
, eating a favorite snack, watching a movie, playing a game of your child's choosing, etc.).
Some children will help “solve the mystery” and be satisfied not asking any questions.
If your child happens to inquire about this so-called mystery you wanted help with, give a brief explanation of the love languages and tell your child that you just want to make sure he or she recognizes and receives your love.
Depending on your child's maturity level, he or she may be able to share his or her thoughts on the matter and further clarify his or her love language.
You are now ready to introduce your child to “The Love Language Mystery Game.” After you click the button below, you'll see a brief set of instructions that explain to your child how to take and score the profile.
Because of your child's age and potential questions he or she may have, be prepared to read the instructions to him or her and answer any questions he or she may have.
Have fun, and enjoy unlocking the mystery of your child's love language!
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You know you love your child. But how can you make sure your child knows it?
The #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages has helped millions of couples learn the secret to building a love that lasts. Now discover how to speak your child’s love language in a way that he or she understands. Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell help you:
- Discover your child’s love language
- Assist your child in successful learning
- Use the love languages to correct and discipline more effectively
- Build a foundation of unconditional love for your child
Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child’s love language.
Discover your child’s primary language—then speak it—and you will be well on your way to a stronger relationship with your flourishing child.
A Perfect Pet for Peyton
This wonderfully imaginative children’s hardcover book by bestselling authors Gary Chapman and Rick Osborne, featuring four-color illustrations (with hidden details!) by Wilson Williams, Jr., will help children learn the importance of love.
Gary’s highly successful The 5 Love Languages®, A Perfect Pet for Peyton tells an entertaining and playful story of five children who each, with the help of Mr. Chapman and the unique pets at his special emporium, discover their own personal love language.
Children and parents a will experience firsthand the power of the love languages as they cuddle up and spend precious time together reading this book over and over again.