- 9 Things Every Wife Should Know About Her Husband
- 1 – How To Make Him Smile
- 2 – What He Needs To ‘Recharge His Batteries’
- 3 – What Is Important To Him
- 4 – How He Reacts To Stress
- 5 – What Motivates Him
- 6 – What His Dreams Are
- 7 – The Ways In Which He Loves You
- 8 – What His Love Language Is
- 9 – How To Make Him Feel Loved
- 9 Things Every Wife Needs From Her Husband
- Every wife should enjoy spending time with her husband
- You need to be more than just the leader of your marriage; you need to be the leader of your family!
- 9 Things a Husband Needs From His Wife
- Better Communication
- Your Undivided Attention
- Quality Time
- Physical Affection
- 9 Things The Happiest Couples Do For Each Other Without Being Asked
- 1. They check in with each other.
- 2. They give each other compliments.
- 4. They act generously, instead of keeping score.
- 5. They speak openly about their thoughts and feelings.
- 6. They surprise their partner with their favorite food.
- 8. They’re in the habit of saying ‘thank you.’
- 9 Things Women Will Face in the Workplace This Year
- 9 Things You Should Always Do Before Having Sex
9 Things Every Wife Should Know About Her Husband
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There’s something magical about being able to call the man you love your husband. It’s un anything else, a partnership and belonging, someone who has your back, all the while building you up. It’s pretty darn special.
Which is why it’s so important that you know your husband. Sometimes even more than he knows himself (as he should do for you too). Because that’s part of the magic of marriage – that there is someone in this world who knows you and loves you enough to put you ahead of themselves.
The ‘getting to know you’ phase never ends. We are always changing and evolving, and talking to each other and communicating. And while these are listed as what every wife should know about her husband, it goes equally the other way too and these things are also what every husband should know about his wife.
1 – How To Make Him Smile
There are going to be times when everyone is stressed, upset or just plain tired and ‘over it’. You know the times when you’re cranky, he’s cranky and you just can’t seem to get that funk.
Knowing how to make him smile is the perfect icebreaker for this. Sometimes all it takes is a change in direction, laughing instead of being cranky, to pull everyone back to neutral.
Plus, it’s a nice feeling to be able to make your husband smile whenever you want.
2 – What He Needs To ‘Recharge His Batteries’
We all know introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries, but even if your husband is an extrovert, there will still be things he needs to do to get back to his ‘zen’ place.
Whether it’s a day out fishing with the boys or a day at home reading his favourite book, work out what it is he needs and be sure to let him have that time when he needs it. (It’s okay, the same goes for you too!!).
Read This: The Truth You Need To Know About Your Husband’s Needs
3 – What Is Important To Him
While it may seem silly to you that he insists on dressing up for a Star Wars marathon every May 4th, if it’s important to him be sure to encourage him, or at the very least, don’t make him feel bad about it.
You don’t have to agree on everything, but understanding what is important to each other gives you boundaries on what you should and shouldn’t push for. It goes both ways, so be sure he knows what is important to you too.
4 – How He Reacts To Stress
We all react to stress differently, but the way your husband reacts to stress may be different to the way you react, or even how you expect him to react. The issue with this is that you can quickly become frustrated if he is stressed and not acting the way you think he should. See the problem?
Knowing how he reacts to stress means you can identify it sooner, be less frustrated and can support him rather than just getting cranky because he has bunkered down playing video games all day (apparently Ghost Recon is good for stress…).
Read This: 55 Questions TO Ask Your Husband Other Than ‘How Was Your Day?’
Want to have more fun in your relationship? Grab a copy of our free Mini Relationship Planner, including the 55 questions to ask as conversation starters.
5 – What Motivates Him
Do you know what it is that motivates your husband? What drives him to achieve his goals? Does the thought of going away camping for a week in the bush make him excited? Or a day at the beach? Or a day on his own to do whatever he wants?
Knowing what motivates each other can mean that you can plan these events for your husband (and yourself) as little ‘rewards’ along the way. It’s important to include individual motivations in your relationship – both his and yours.
6 – What His Dreams Are
Where does your husband hope to be in a year, in five years, in a decade? What does he want to be doing with his career? With his life? As a family and with you?
One of the issues that causes so much upset in relationships is when a husband and wife have very, very different dreams for their lives.
They go through their relationship without talking to each other about where they want to be in years to come, or they just agree and go along with one or the others to keep them happy, and then all of a sudden it’s they are heading down two very different paths.
Find out what your husband’s dreams are – how are they similar to yours and how do they differ? And how can you make them both work together and help each other achieve your dreams?
7 – The Ways In Which He Loves You
What is it that your husband loves and adores about you? Knowing this is such a nice feeling, and can help you with any self-consciousness or insecurities you may have. It can even make you feel more confident.
Knowing that your husband loves your independence and strength as a woman, makes you feel even more independent and strong. Knowing that he loves how stubborn you are, makes you feel less self-conscious about it. And knowing that he loves your womanly curves, makes you feel less you need to look the photoshopped images in magazines.
Read This: 7 Creative Ways You Can Thank Your Husband Each Day
8 – What His Love Language Is
So many relationships have been saved by The Five Love Languages. In a nutshell, it identifies 5 different languages of love that we speak, and helps you work out which ones are most important to you (and your husband). This way, knowing what is most important to each other, you can see each others actions and reactions in a new light.
For example, if your husbands love language is ‘acts of service’ and he spends time every week washing your car and refuelling it for you, this could be a way that he is showing his love for you. But if your love language is ‘quality time’ then all you see is that he is spending time away from you doing meaningless things washing a car.
See where the problem is?
Knowing his love language will help you speak to it, and understand when he is speaking it to you.
Read This: 8 Things You Should Talk To Your Husband About
9 – How To Make Him Feel Loved
As a follow on from above, it’s so important for you to know how to make your husband feel loved. Not in the way you think should make him feel loved, but how you know works. Take time getting to find out. He might not be forthcoming about it, he might not even realise himself, so pay attention to when he shows the most appreciation and above all else, talk.
Nothing is more important than talking to one another.
I honestly believe that having fun in your relationship is one of the key factors in having a successful relationship that makes you excited, makes you happy and makes you confident. Which is why I created a planner just for relationships called ‘Our Relationship Planner’.
It has so many pages in it to help promote communication and most importantly, to have fun. Check it out below or find more of my relationship planners here – Relationship Planners.
9 Things Every Wife Needs From Her Husband
In almost all of the separations, affairs and divorces I’ve seen in my years running Husband Help Haven, at least one of these 9 'things' is missing from the marriage.
Too many men today have forgotten what it means to be a husband. We’ve forgotten our duties as the head of the family.
Today, you’re going to get a clear-as-day reminder.
Every marriage is different, yes, but ultimately there are some things that EVERY wife needs from her husband.
As you read through each ‘thing’, I want you to ask yourself, “Does my wife get this from me?”
If not, the time to change is now.
Let’s get started.
A guy emailed me a couple weeks ago with a heartbreaking story.
He had lost his job about 6 months ago. When he emailed me, his family’s bank account was almost empty and his wife had told him that if he didn’t find a way to make ends meet by the end of the month, she was going to walk out the door with their daughter and never come back.
She lost confidence in his ability to provide a stable home for the family both now and in the future, and so she wanted out.
Every wife craves a feeling of security from her husband. Since the beginning of time, man has provided and protected his family.
A husband needs to give his wife that feeling of stability; no matter what happens, she needs to know he’s going to make everything okay.
This need for security does NOT mean you have to be the breadwinner. But it does mean that your wife needs to be able to trust that YOU are going to make sure the family is provided for, protected and looked after.
Your wife needs to trust that if, God forbid, someone would lose their job or get injured and be unable to work, that the family would not be doomed to financial ruin.
If you’re NOT the breadwinner, you must be on top of financial planning. You need to make sure that the money your wife makes is being used wisely, and that you won’t be out on the streets if she loses her job.
How do you do that? How do you create that feeling for your wife?
YOU have to genuinely believe the life you’re living is enjoyable and worthwhile!
You should enjoy your marriage as much as this guy enjoys cowboy hats!
When YOU are content with your marriage and your family, your WIFE will be much more ly to feel the same way.
This means you should actively enjoy the time you spend with your wife. Be engaged with her and your kids, if you’ve got any. Look forward to the time you spend with your family.
When you’re home with them, don’t go into “bored mode” where you’re basically just trying to pass time until you get to do something you want to do, watch TV or hop on the computer.
And, don’t ever let yourself dread the time you spend with your family as just one more obligation… Your wife will be able to feel the moment you let yourself start thinking that way.
Because this age-range is prime time for a midlife crisis.
And, since a midlife crisis is always rooted in unfulfillment, one of the best ways to combat, or better yet, prevent it is by leading the way in contentment.
I have NEVER seen a wife fall into a midlife crisis when she felt content and fulfilled in the marriage.
Your wife wants to be proud of her family. She wants to be proud of her husband, the man she has committed her life to.
And why wouldn’t she?
When you’re married, two become one. If your wife can be proud of you, then that means that she can be proud of herself. When she can be proud of her marriage, this helps her feel all the other things listed in this article!
Obviously, every husband has his flaws…
But, you don’t have to be perfect for your wife to be proud of the man she married. You just have to do the things that a husband is supposed to do!
The good news is that it’s easier to stand out as a great husband today than it’s ever been, simply because so few men today have any idea what it means to lead in marriage.
It’s sad, but true.
By showing your wife that you’re one of the rare breed of men are capable of going above and beyond for their marriage and family, you WILL stand out, and she WILL be proud of you. It’s not rocket science!
Your wife needs to know that you are always on her side.
She needs to know that you’ve got her back.
She needs you to be the shoulder she can lean on when times get tough.
This doesn’t mean that you have to agree on every single decision in the marriage. The type of support we’re talking about here is not necessarily for things INSIDE the marriage relationship, but for things OUTSIDE it.
- If your wife has an extremely stressful day at work, she needs to be able to come home and know that you will care about her day.
- If your wife is feeling overwhelmed with parenting, she needs to be able to trust that you can relieve her.
- If your wife gets into a big disagreement with one of her friends or relatives, she needs to know that you will be on her side.
Basically, your wife needs to know that you’re always going to be there to support her and hear her out.
Whatever trials she ever faces in her life, she needs to feel you are the foundation on which she can stand when everything else is falling apart.
Every wife should enjoy spending time with her husband
A friend is someone who you enjoy spending time with. Ideally, husband and wife are each other’s best friend!
This means the alone time you get with your wife should not be centered only on the bedroom, or talking about family duties.
Of course, life is busy and especially if you have kids, a lot of alone time you and your wife get is going to be devoted to them. But, not ALL of it.
You and your wife should be able to spend time together as friends too, whether that means shooting the breeze together or doing something that you both enjoy.
Remember that beauty is more than just outward appearance.
Make sure you appreciate the physical, intellectual and spiritual beauty of your wife, and make sure she knows it!
This doesn’t just have to be something you do with words… Your actions can communicate how beautiful you find your wife too. If your wife’s love language is NOT words of affirmation, then get creative!
The important thing is that your wife gets that feeling of beauty from you, one way or another.
Just to be clear, when I say intimacy, I’m NOT just talking about sex.
Intimacy is that feeling of closeness that a man and woman are meant to experience inside of a marriage. True intimacy is the manifestation of deep love between two people, and it doesn’t always have to be physical.
Giving your wife intimacy is about the feeling you create for her, not the physical actions that you do.
Yes, intimacy DOES include sex. When you have sex with your wife, you should get that feeling of closeness, coziness, of unbridled love. But, sex isn’t the only form of intimacy.
Here are some other ways to create and maintain intimacy:
- You can create intimacy for your wife through non-sexual physical affection.
- You can give her that feeling of intimacy by understanding her as a person; show her that you understand her goals, her wants, or even her peeves.
- You can create that feeling of intimacy by engaging her on an intellectual level; by challenging her and/or talking to her about something she has deep knowledge of.
- Or, you can create that feeling on a spiritual level… One of the ways my wife and I stay intimate is by praying together every night WITHOUT our daughter. This time is husband-wife time, not parent time.
You need to be more than just the leader of your marriage; you need to be the leader of your family!
We have a severe father problem in our society today.
Way too many kids are growing up without a proper father figure. Many kids grow up without any father at all.
For many of you, your own lack of male role models growing up is a big reason that you’re here on this site!
If you want your kids to have a happy, healthy and fulfilling marriage when they grow up, then you MUST take your job as father seriously.
But, it’s not just your kids that need you to be the father of the family… Your wife does too! She needs you to not only be her leader, but leader to your children too.
In Manly Marriage Revival, I give you an acronym to help you remember your responsibilities as father. The acronym is SPELL:
Strong – Always remain positive, confident and respectful in front of your kids. When you make decisions as a father, stand firm in them. When you say yes, it means yes. When you say no, it means no. You are “the Dad”.
Present – You are there for your kids. You get lots of face time with them.
But, remember that being present is about more than just physically being around your kids… A father must be present mentally and emotionally too. When you’re spending time with your kids, they get your full attention. Reinforce that they’re worthy of attention.
Encouraging – A good father is constantly uplifting his kids. He wants them to be confident. He wants to be a constant source of positivity. He isn’t cynical or negative.
Always look for opportunities to encourage your children… And not just generic encouragement “Great job!” or “You did awesome!” Look for specific ways to praise your children.
Loving – Pretty straightforward one here… A father loves his kids and his kids know that he loves them. This is communicated through both words and actions.
Leader – Finally, a good father leads his family, and his kids see him as the family’s leader.
If you can hit all five of these, I can virtually guarantee you that your marriage will improve. When you are active as a father first, your wife will find you attractive as a husband.
Your wife NEEDS you to be a leader.
And not a leader in the traditional “alpha male” sense of the word…
She needs you to be a servant-leader… The type of leader who takes his job so seriously that he makes sacrifices for the benefit of those he serves.
This isn’t begging. This isn’t submission. Those two things are borne weakness and self-interest.
True husbandly leadership is borne strength, humility and, above all, love. This is the true meaning of husbandly leadership.
She needs to know that she can count on you to see the family to their betterment; a leader puts the cause (in this case, the family) ahead of himself, and that’s what you need to do for your wife.
Your wife needs a leader in her marriage. Even if she doesn’t know it. Even if she doesn’t want it. She needs it, and she will love it once she sees it.
Which ones do you need to work on?
If you want to get a head start on giving your wife each of these 9 things in your marriage, then be sure to check out the free PDF workbook that goes along with this post:?
And, let’s take it a step further…
Can you think of anything else that every wife needs from her husband? Let me know!
Much manly love,
I'm Stephen, the guy behind Husband Help Haven. I'm not a marriage counselor or a lawyer, I'm just a guy on the Internet who has talked to a loooooot of men going through separation… Over 2,000 in the past 5 years. My goal is to give men the tools they need to save their marriage from separation. Read more here
9 Things a Husband Needs From His Wife
Happy marriages require selflessness. Being selfless is the opposite of selfish. If you’re selfless, you think less about yourself and more about others. But unfortunately, selflessness is often overlooked in relationships. On the surface, it appears to run contrary to the very notion.
People often think that the pursuit of happiness by its very nature is selfish. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The pursuit of happiness in your marriage isn’t selfish, or at least doesn’t need to be.
We are drawn to those who selflessly give themselves, those who love openly and generously. While it’s important that your needs are being met in your marriage, if you aren’t also basing your relationship on the needs of your spouse, you will run into trouble.
Here are nine things a husband really needs. Your husband may be afraid to ask for these things or may not know how.
Your husband needs strong communication in the marriage. Research has shown that the quality of your relationship is directly related to the quality of your communication skills. Unfortunately, in many marriages today, one of the key issues is communication.
What complicates this even more is the fact that men and women often communicate differently. Despite the research and the stigma of men not communicating as well as women in the relationship, your husband wants to be understood and accepted for who he is in the relationship.
Sometimes, when a husband has a particular need, he may not know how to communicate that need or hesitates to ask because he is afraid of the tension the conversation will create. When you’re confused about his actions or behavior, don’t be afraid to ask him directly what’s going on and what his needs are.
Often, men are looking for women to be direct with them. No beating around the bush.
Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected. Husbands need to know that their wives respect them both privately and publicly. Men thrive when they know that their wives trust them, admire them and believe in them. Men would rather sense the loss of loving feelings from their wives than to be disrespected by them.
Your Undivided Attention
Marriages are riddled with distractions. Not only are there distractions outside of the home work, there are also distractions in the home, technology, that can draw us away from our spouses. At the end of a long day, many of us come home and do everything we can to tune everything out.
While your day may have been tiring and strenuous, it’s important that you devote time to listening to your husband without interruption. He wants to be heard and feel you’re truly listening, especially when there’s something he is going through in his personal or professional life. When you do this, he feels he’s valued.
When you don’t, his feels her words don’t truly matter.
Time alone isn’t always the easiest thing to come by, especially when you have children. Many husbands don’t ask for time alone with their spouse because they are so caught up in their daily tasks. Many men would ask for quality time alone if their wives would initiate it.
Sometimes, men feel uncomfortable pushing for more quality time when they know their wives have so much going on at work or at home, or if they’ve asked for quality time before and have been turned down.
No matter how caught up you are in the hustle and bustle of life, you and your husband need that time alone together to keep our relationship healthy.
Romance is one of the most fun and least executed activities in many relationships. There are so many distractions in our busy lives that it can be hard for many husbands and wives to find the time to be romantic.
Despite what your husband may be showing you, he needs romance and he doesn’t want to be the only one initiating it. He wants you to do the planning sometimes. The way to make the romance in your relationship stronger is by fully engaging in it.
Being romantic isn’t much work, and savoring romantic moments will strengthen your bond.
Your husband wants more physical affection and touch from you – and not just sex. Don’t be afraid to cuddle up to him while you watch a show, give him a big hug and kiss hello, and give him a five-minute shoulder rub while you’re laying in bed together, getting ready to go to sleep. Make an effort to show some physical affection toward him consistently.
Despite the stigma, there are many men who are responsible for many aspects of home and family life. Your husband wants you to help out with things at home, without having to be asked.
If your husband is the one who is responsible for the cooking and the cleaning, take time out to help him with those day-to-day tasks. There are times when your husband may feel overwhelmed by these tasks, but doesn’t ask for help because he deems it as his responsibility.
If your husband generally helps the kids with their homework, get involved in the process. Remember, marriage is a partnership.
Your husband wants you to be on his side. Find a way to let your partner know that you’re in his corner. You might show your loyalty by standing up for your guy when he feels the world is against him.
Let him know you support what he’s passionate about. Show him that you value what he values. This adds a sense of teamwork, security and intimacy in your relationship. Your relationship will be stronger for it.
Verbal affirmation is important in every marriage, particularly for those who speak the words of affirmation love language. Some people feel that words have more weight than actions, and if your husband is one of those people, he would rather hear the reasons behind your love versus any other expression of love.
You may think your husband already knows that you think he is the most special person in the world, but he also wants to hear that from you too. Remember, there is power in words. If you’re not affirming your husband, he may feel you don’t care. The same goes for you. If you don’t feel your husband is affirming you, you may feel he doesn’t care.
Verbal affirmation lets your husband know that she is still treasured.
Challenge yourself to refuse to overlook the importance of selflessness. Instead, choose to pursue selflessness as the very means to achieve happiness in your marriage – not just for your sake, but for the sake of your husband who you so truly love.
9 Things The Happiest Couples Do For Each Other Without Being Asked
In a healthy relationship, people tend to give love and support freely and frequently. They don’t wait for a special occasion to show their appreciation. They genuinely enjoy doing nice things for one another “just because” ― no prompting necessary.
We asked relationship experts to tell us what kinds of things, both big and small, happy couples do for each other without being asked. Here’s what they had to say:
1. They check in with each other.
“Whether it’s a ‘hello’ text or call to ask, ‘How did it go?’ the happiest couples reach out.
They call to say, ‘I’m running late,’ or ‘We just landed,’ or ‘Do you need me to stop at the store on my way home?’ The message: I’m thinking of you.
The result: A feeling of being connected, being a key part of each other’s lives.” ― Winifred M. Reilly, marriage and family therapist and author of It Takes One to Tango
2. They give each other compliments.
“This doesn’t have to be a lovey-dovey compliment about being the best wife in the world, but even an offhand remark recognizing someone’s contribution, ‘great dinner!’ Although some couples do well without positive feedback, the majority of people at least a little bit of verbal recognition for their contribution, and happy couples are free with positive feedback.” ― Samantha Rodman, psychologist and dating coach
“Giving your partner a card that says ‘Thinking of you’ or ‘Thank you for all you do’ is such a sweet gesture. It will make him or her feel special and it’s a great reminder to you as well of all you have to be grateful for.
An added fun touch would be to leave the card somewhere your loved one will happen on it. My husband loves to leave cards for me in the refrigerator. I often leave his cards under his pillow.
” ― Susan Pease Gadoua, marriage therapist and the co-author of The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels
4. They act generously, instead of keeping score.
“Generosity is something freely given as a gift, with nothing expected in return. When a relationship feels secure, it is easy to want to offer more than your fair share of tasks or thoughtful gestures to show your love for your partner.
Whether moving their clothes to the dryer for them or going on their favorite hike again, highly fulfilled couples tend to maintain great satisfaction from being thoughtful and generous toward their partner rather than scorekeeping.
” ― Kari Carroll, couples therapist
5. They speak openly about their thoughts and feelings.
“When partners feel that it’s pulling teeth to get each other to divulge any thoughts or feelings, a relationship can feel very lonely. Happy couples may not communicate constantly on a deep level, but they do it frequently enough to feel that they really know one another.” ― Samantha Rodman
6. They surprise their partner with their favorite food.
“We all know that food is nurturing and helps people feel connected. But when you go your way to bring home a special food you know they will love, it’s a wonderful way to put ‘I love you’ into action. If the favorite food is a meal that you make — rather than, say, a pint of Haagen Dazs — you’ll undoubtedly get even more points.” ― Susan Pease Gadoua
“Regardless of whether you do the washing yourself or take the car to a car wash, when your partner sees their squeaky clean wheels on the street or in the driveway, he or she will ly be very grateful.” ― Susan Pease Gadoua
8. They’re in the habit of saying ‘thank you.’
“Despite the mundanity and complacency that can develop within a long-term partnership, a sure way to keep the fire alive and burning brightly is to watch your partner beam when you regularly notice and point out their contributions to your life.
People want to be reminded they are of value to you, and secure couples understand that this should be frequent.
Although you may assume your love to be understood, in reality, acknowledging your partner’s efforts and contributions consistently builds an even deeper connection.” ― Kari Carroll
“And they do it when it’s unprompted, unsolicited, and unexpected. In many relationships the ‘I love yous’ come more from one partner than the other. Typically one leads and the other follows.
Too often I hear the excuse, ‘I don’t want to overuse it.’ In happy relationships, both partners initiate saying it and they mean it when then do.
” ― Kurt Smith, therapist who specializes in counseling for men
If your partner doesn’t do all of these things, don’t fret. Relationships are a work in progress, and if you’re not getting what you want it, you should ask. You aren’t a mind reader, so you can’t expect your partner to be one either.
9 Things Women Will Face in the Workplace This Year
1. More funding will be awarded to women-founded companies.
The move by Melinda Gates making a $1.5 billion commitment to women will cause old-boy network venture funds to pay more attention.
Already, venture funding has finally seen a meaningful uptick to a full 2.8% in 2019 — or $3.8 billion — to all-female teams versus 2.2% for 2018. This will drive and support more women-funded ventures.
2. Women will have to become more efficient for family balance.
As tech and innovation drive speed and disruption locally and globally, women will find it harder — not easier — to juggle it all.
They’ll need to leverage efficiencies and take more tasks online, using remote working tools to collaborate with a team as they would if they were in the same physical location, using team management tools/platforms for efficiency, rather than spend hours in lengthy meetings and turn the commute into a mobile office with mobile hotspots, remote document printing, etc.
They can also leverage apps for personal time management such as online bill pay and Socratic by Google for homework checking.
3. More women will arrive in the C-suite, politics and other roles not traditionally held by women.
We’ll see more women in CEO and other C-suite roles, as well as in venture capital and private equity roles.
The corporate world has begun to see that not only is it expected to have women in all business areas and in the C-suite, but that it drives positive growth and makes good business sense. The myth that women at the top will run off as they have families — leaving men to shoulder an extra burden — is being disproved.
4. Gen Z women will make social impact a priority.
In a newly released Gen Z report, 62% of young people said they want to create something world-changing.
Gen Z women are driven less by money and more by solving real issues, from teen depression and suicide to protecting the environment. As more women begin to lead, support for social impact ventures that focus on women empowerment and gender equity will increase.
5. Women will stand out in business and other male-dominated college degree courses.
Colleges are increasing their own focus on diversity.
Where there are university leaders with a real commitment to diversity — such as at the University of Connecticut, NYU and Rice University, to name a few — women will have an edge in male-dominated majors, especially if they bring unique leadership experience.
One example: business. High school graduates of the after-school business academy, Girls With Impact, found that, when they leveraged their venture experience in college applications, they received scholarships as high as $200,000 and placement into the business honors programs.
6. Tech expertise will give women an edge in hiring.
Whether it’s digital marketing or compliance regulations, niche knowledge will give women a strategic advantage in landing a job. That’s because employers are looking to hire women but often struggle with finding the right talent.
Middle-aged and older women who lack the kind of basic professional skills required today — smart online research, creation of presentations and the ability to quickly learn a new app or software — will be left behind or be left to the few traditional jobs remaining.
There are still few women at the top: just 5% of Fortune 500 CEOs and 30% of entrepreneurs.
7. LGBTQ women will find even greater acceptance.
A huge shift in mindset took place in 2019, when nonconforming gender identity went from being a special category to being popularized in the mainstream — from the workplace to schools.
The move by one high school student to respond to her LGBTQ classmates’ lack of a safe community with the creation of a social venture, You:We — an online community — is just one example of the next generation’s desire to solve social problems, including gender equality.
8. The pressure for affordable child care will increase.
With child care costs rising 24% over the last decade, families are struggling. Danish couples spend about 10.7% of their income on child care (2.9% for single parents), while U.S. couples spend 25.6% (jumping to 54% if you’re single), according to the OECD.
But with more women in Congress, new initiatives ( Senator Patty Murray’s bill calling for a cap on the amount families pay) and increased corporate focus on women and employee retention, the pedal will be put to the metal on achieving realistic child care costs.
9. ‘Equal pay’ will remain a dream for many.
While California passed its own law to ensure employers pay both men and women the same for the same work, we’ve still got a long way to go. The idea sounds good — and will help many, my friend Stephanie who saw her pay get a boost following the hiring of a man with the same education.
But remember that for it to have meaning, women need to be in decent-paying jobs first.
As it stands now, there are still few women at the top: just 5% of Fortune 500 CEOs and 30% of entrepreneurs. Reports of women leaving their jobs in STEM careers and the financial industry point to one big issue: culture, culture, culture.
Changing culture starts with leadership. If there’s no leadership, it means that we have to start with the next generation of leaders. As Melinda Gates said: “When we invest in women and girls, we are investing in the people who invest in everyone else.”
And when we do, we’ll see an impact on their financial security, our economy, our workplaces and the policies that shape our lives.
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9 Things You Should Always Do Before Having Sex
Maybe you recently started seeing a new partner and you’re trying to think of great ways to set the scene for excellent sex. Or maybe you’ve been with your partner for so long, you’re hoping for a refresher on how to create a more sensual mood in the bedroom. Either way, there’s a to-do list before you hit the sheets.
If you want to be really ready for intimacy, consider this a one-stop checklist. Below, experts’ tips on what to do before having sex.
While spontaneity is often praised, creating some sexual tension well before you hit the bedroom can make for a more exciting encounter. Hours of anticipation will pay off.
“Give your partner a lingering kiss in the morning, a flirtatious text during the day or a suggestive wink when they walk in the door,” said Sarah Hunter Murray, a sex researcher and relationship therapist. “Something that indicates sex could very well be on horizon but gives time you time for your imagination to wander and your body to get warmed up.”
Safe sex is obviously important, which for some may include protection.
For men, have condoms ready to go before you get busy so you’re well prepared, said Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach.
“And know the proper way to place a condom on a partner’s penis,” she said. “I always recommend purchasing large-size condoms since there is a minuscule difference between regular and large sizes.”
Rodgers called lube “another bedside essential” that should remain within arm’s reach. She recommended trying “beautiful bedside dispensers that warm lubricant and have hands-free dispensing so there’s no fumbling with bottles,” which could take you the moment.
Thoughtful touches to your environment help set the mood. Maybe it’s a favorite playlist, dimmer lighting, candles or scents, all of which can enhance the experience, Rodgers said.
For women especially, sex begins in the mind. “The brain is a more powerful sexual organ than genitalia, because it’s where sex drive stems from, so reading erotica or visually imagining sex play will do wonders to heighten senses in preparation for sex,” Rodgers said.
You can pepper imagination sessions throughout your day in the hours leading up to sex ― and don’t forget foreplay once you’re finally together.
You’re going to enjoy sex a whole lot less if you’re thinking about everything you need to get done. If your mind is constantly wandering toward thoughts , “We need more milk” and “I have to move my dentist appointment on Thursday,” then you need a strategy to stay in the moment.
“Those everyday things can get in the way of being able to focus on enjoying sex,” Murray said. “So if you feel things piling up in front of you, make a list of what needs to get done and then put that list off to the side so you can just focus on enjoying sex for a few minutes.” The list will still be there in an hour.
Feeling sexy and desirable to our partner is a key component that contributes to sexual enjoyment, said Murray.
“So before sex, do something that makes you feel a little sexier and confident,” she suggested. Maybe that’s having a shower, wearing some underwear you feel confident in or listening to a sensual song.
“Something that makes you feel more attractive will put you in a more sexual headspace.”
“We’re seeing more evidence that mindfulness can help increase our attention and focus on pleasurable sexual sensations, which of course leads to better, more satisfying sex,” Murray said.
Even if you don’t meditate, you can easily separate your sexual experience from your daily routine. “Before shifting from your busy life to a sexual environment, take a moment to inhale and exhale a few deep breaths,” she said. “This will help you relax and get in a more Zen headspace for sex.”
One major thing to keep in mind? Most women need about 20 minutes for their bodies to fully prepare for penetrative sex.
“This means that taking time to enjoy some foreplay can go a long way in providing both partners with an incredibly enjoyable sex experience,” Rodgers said.
“Undressing each other piece by piece — giving each other’s body kisses along the way — is a great way to get to know your partner’s body and sets a sensual tone.”
Don’t rush in the heat of the moment; slow it way down. Then you’ll be more than ready for the main event.